Vacation thoughts from home

Will I  remember the way it feels to step from dry coolness in a small condo, out into a warm, humid, sunny walk way lined with mini palm trees and other tropical plants? To walk across the driveway with the squeek of my flip flops and the smell of my sunscreen? Will I forget the way I always tried to see as many geckos as I could, those cute little lizard guys who live all about the complex just scittering and scattering about?  When you come home from vacation in South Western Florida to the "north we know".. its almost like someone plucks you from a dream and drops you harshly back into a cold pool, where there are no palms, no geckos, no amazing vegetation and spectacular sunsets.

Will I remember being able to say, "I'm going to the pool" and just go over to it?"  The white powder sand on the beach, and the 88 degree water that envelopes you in a salty floating paradise under a blue sky, will they fade away into merely photos?  Probably.

What I will never forget is the look on Daniel's face as he is mesmerized by the plane taking off, by the feel of the Florida heat, by the warmth of the ocean, by the lights in the ceilings, by the soft waves coming in and out leaving so many gorgeous white shells.  And Daniel's face as John carries him into the pool, wraps a pool noodle around him, and just floats around.  That look of joy, comfort, freedom, relaxation, and love.  Secure in Dad's arms he lets his body float, kick, and splash.  He bares a farmers tan from his rash guard shirt, and sports a few bug bites on his toes from rogue biting flies that get us all. That face so simple and gentle soaking in the world with his eyes and noticing intricate details of a typical day that to him are amazing. 

Seeing him happy is the reason why we do it.  If it were not for family who love us, we wouldn't be able to witness that joyful face in a place so different and so stimulating.   It is just pure happiness in the moment.  Daniel is pure happiness and truth in the moment too.  The rest of us are all wrapped up in our complications.  Daniel is just enjoying life as it comes and presents new things for him to experience. 

It's simple and completely spectacular. 

Coffee in my favorite Florida chair

In a white soft leather recliner, that swivels 360 degrees, I'm sitting with my feet up looking out a window at Florida.   Daniel is sleeping in a crazy but happy position in the bed I just got up from. When we travel one of the biggest challenges is where do you put a 16 year old disabled child to sleep.  Gone are the the days of bed rails and  pack and plays.  Usually he sleeps right up next to me.  Because he wants to cuddle up and be close.  Daddy is on a trundle bed at the other side of the room. It's like a camp.  The other kids get to have their own rooms and that's ok.  They are getting older now and need their privacy.

 It never ceases to put a numbing surreal feeling in my brain when I try to envision my future.  It includes the three of us, in this camp, or some other camp, so that I can take care of Daniel.  A far cry from the happy retirees I see down here in Florida enjoying their grandchildren, or just strolling hand in hand down the beach.   Our nest will always include the one baby bird who has no wings.

Florida has become, to me, a place of obsession.  I love the weather, the air, the water, the people.  Handicap spots are plentiful, and people are patient.  Beaches now offer beach wheelchairs, so Daniel can go take a walk down the beach, or just get right up to the warm water of the Gulf of Mexico.  The roads are lined with palm trees and the homes are very solid structures full of ceiling fans, tile, and Florida flare.  Sarah and I walked down to the beach with Daniel last night, I'd say it was about two blocks from this condo we are in.  He smiled and looked with fascination at everything he saw.  It is a far cry from Sandy Hook, CT where we can not walk safely on our own road.  

Coffee tastes better for some reason when I am rocking in this chair looking at some species of palm tree that has grown about 5 feet taller in the 6 or 7 years we have been bring Daniel here to John's cousin's condo.

I don't fear for his health and well being in this place, after all, its Naples Florida. There is a hospital near by, and a doctors office on every corner of some sort.

Sarah and I have been engrossed in episodes of HGTV all week and all I can say is that there isnt a show on that channel that I don't love.  I would just like to see an episode where they have to accommodate for a disabled child.

As my moment of peace is drawing to a close, I will add a few pictures to this post and simply end until later. Daniel has started making his "hey I'm awake in here" sounds, and he needs much care in the morning.  This white leather chair is my very favorite item in this entire condo.  Even if my moments in this place of peace are few, I will say that I thoroughly enjoy them.  Coffee just tastes better in this chair.

Florida Morning wake ups Life with Daniel

September 17, 2013

This is an example of the true joy and beauty that is my Daniel.  We had just arrived in Florida, where we stay at a family member's home.  Daniel was sleeping in the guest room, in a queen bed, with me so I could make sure he was ok and didn't fall out.

When we woke up. He was so cheerful.  He was absolutely thrilled at the fact that above our heads there was a ceiling fan.  Of all things.  Just a regular white ceiling fan, turning and turning.  He thought that was just about the coolest thing he had ever seen.

People work so hard to fill their lives with as much materialism as they can.  Forgetting what true joy of the heart is.  For Daniel, its about as pure as it gets.   He likes the breeze of the fan.  He likes feeling of swimming in warm water.  He laughs and smiles when things please him with no reservation at all.

It's beautiful.  He's such a blessing.

Daniel. And Water.

This is why I do what I do.  Daniel loves the water.  He can feel freedom in the water and when I swim with him I sense that he can use his entire body and not have the limitations of gravity.  

I had him in Aqua therapy for a long time with Angel Fish...but could no longer afford it.  Now I am the therapist..and he seems ok with that.  At least he swims.

Water is magical.  I don't feel right unless I'm near the ocean.  I don't know why.  I miss Naples Florida desperately because there...we can swim every day... multiple times a day.  I long for a chance to bring Daniel back to a warm climate.   Sarah and Thomas like it too...

Here are some pictures of Daniel in water.  All that I do...I do for him.... to provide him with the simple things in life that so many people just take for granted.

I dream of the ocean at night... and being near water.  Someday.  Someday. We will be able to do this every day.