My motivational Moment of the day

Facing the Giants - It's all heart from here

Everyday when I wake up, there are giants looming all around me.  Waving weapons of responsibility, advocacy, fixing things, bills to paid, phone calls, piles of papers, things to review, appointments to get to, procedures to schedule, earn money$$$, work harder, house is falling apart, kids need clothes, therapy, college, mortgage, utilities, doctors, supplies, medicine, laundry, manage it all giants.  Giants each wearing a jersey that says what they are. They intimidate me and make me want to pull the covers over my head.

But I have no choice but to face them.  There will be a day when the giants become virtually insurmountable and the decision to push will not be an option.  We are that way, when we protect a child.  Nothing else matters.  And when you have a child with special needs, who is incapable of doing anything for themselves for the rest of their life, indirectly that is a giant you have to dance with for the rest of that child's life.

This video is not about a highschool football team.  It's about the gift of leadership.  This coach pushes Brock farther than he ever thought he could possibly go.  Because Brock couldn't see, and he just had faith in himself and in his coach.   "It burns", "I know it burns!!!".... "It's all heart from here"

I feel like life does that to people.  People go about a life, that is safe, controlled and comfortable.  They have what they need, and they proceed in a routine way.  No disabled people, no sick people...just normal life.   

And then there are the people who face great trials. The birth of a severely disabled child, cancer of a loved one, loss of a child, losing a job and all security, and whatever Giant "Giant" falls upon them.  

You then put your faith to the test.  It's then that you realize the true meaning of  "its all heart from here".  Blood, sweat, tears, pain, and you just keep on pushing.   Putting yourself out on a limb and leaving it all in God's hands you just keep on going.  Then you fall down.  It's give up time. It's time to just say forget it, I'm too weak, it burns, it hurts too much, I can't do it.  And while you lay in your defeat a voice says to you...  "Give me your best Julie.  This is NOT your best.  Get up.  Don't stop. It's all heart from here.  I'm here for you. I am with you. I love you. I will sustain you. Get up. You are better than this. Don't fall to despair and don't fear, because when you get to the end of this difficult road, it will simply turn into another difficult road.  Winding and winding and winding.  But I will be here.  Don't stop.  You will be rewarded.  I know it's hard.  I know.  Don't look at others.  Their choices are different.  You have no choice.  I know you won't stop. 

So, I take a shower.  Drink 3 cups of coffee.  Pull my messy hair up in a clip and sit down at my desk, facing those giants.  Or sometimes I just ignore them.  Or sometimes I just pray for help.  Or sometimes I need help.  But I don't go back to bed. I don't sob into my pillows until Daniel comes home from school.  I make calls to doctors, I call about bills, I negotiate with creditors, I figure out the oil price plan, I order more diapers, I order more medicine, I schedule a 6 month assessment with DSS, and then I go outside to walk my little dog Henry.  We practice his commands, and we take a walk.  I am definitely not alone.  

Faith lifts me back up, every time I remember to ask God to please please please lift me up.  

I can't wait until Daniel gets home from school each day.  It's a gift that he's healthy and with me.  And it's all heart from here.

Pools and the ADA

Earlier this year I began a search for a place on Cape Cod for us to bring our family.  Now, mind you, the location had to have wheelchair accessibility.
After about 25 calls to resorts and hotels, I found one place called the "Red Jacket Resort" in South Yarmouth that stated they were "wheelchair accessible" and had heated pools.   The manager did call me back and stated, with an uncomfortable tone in his voice that they DID NOT have pool lifts in order to get a child into the pool.  This is supposed to be a family friendly resort.

We decided to go anyways, because John can still carry Daniel into the pool and we figured it was only for a few days.   But Daniel is fast growing heavier, at age 14, and soon we will require pool lifts in order to get him into the water.

The pools may have been heated, but they felt cold....and Daniel shivered like crazy.  The resort had absolutely no wheelchair access to its beautiful beach..and all Daniel could do was watch from a distance.

We enjoyed ourselves, but found the Cape was not a friendly destination for children in wheelchairs.  I just came across an article which really tripped my anger at the fact that every place I called on the Cape DID NOT HAVE PROPER ACCESSIBILITY FOR DISABLED AND/OR WHEELCHAIR BOUND people.

From Parenting Magazine.....

It’s the kind of news that seriously ticks you off when you have a child with special needs, but it’s the kind of news that should perturb anyone with a heart.

By March 15, hotels and city recreation centers with public pools and spas were supposed to install or order permanent lifts, or get pool ramps, to make them accessible to kids and adults with special needs; the lifts alow them to transfer from wheelchairs into the water. This accessibility is in compliance with the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). The deadline got extended by two months as the hotel industry and Congressional reps resisted. And now, hotels and places with public pools have until January 31, 2013 to comply.This means we’re headed into one more summer that countless kids and adults around the country won’t be able to use their local pools. One more summer when parents will struggle to carry their child with disabilities into the pool because there is no other way, or give up and not go at all.

According to an article in the Los Angeles Times, pool manufacturers say the law applies to about 256,000 pools and spas around the country; only a small percentage, they estimate, are equipped with lifts. Even more mind-boggling is the resistance the accessibility legislation triggered. The American Hotel & Lodging Association urged members to push for a delay in enforcing the ADA at pools. Meanwhile, on March 14 South Carolina Republican Senators Jim DeMint and Lindsey Graham introduced a bill to inherently prevent the ADA from being enforced at public pools and spas. On March 16, Rep. David Schweikert (R-AZ) backed a similar bill.

What were they thinking? Well, as DeMint explained it, the enforcement of accessibility “could lead to increased litigation and heavy fines that could force pools to close or raise fees on families.” His proposal: “Pools with public access should have the flexibility to work directly with people with disabilities to accommodate their needs.”

I’d like to see Senator DeMint stand in front of a child with disabilities and tell him that, sorry, he can’t use his local pool because of concerns about lawsuits.

Of course, it’s important that hotels and rec centers get the right accessibility equipment and have a general plan in place before they comply. But how is it even possible there are any places left that haven’t gotten around to doing this, let alone major hotel chains? As for the hotel industry’s concernthat permanent lifts could pose a safety hazard to children tempted to play with them, the fact is, pools are generally dangerous places for kids. Which is why you are not supposed to leave them unattended.

Surely hotels could figure out a way to make sure kids don’t use permanent lifts as pool jungle gyms. Surely hotels should get a grip and realize that kids and adults with disabilities deserves fair access to its amenities. Swimming is not a luxury; every child and adult deserves the right to enjoy this summer pleasure."

Thankfully our town pool has a lift, its antiquated and manual...but at least they are trying.  Daniel loves to swim more than any other activity.  Resorts and Hotels should be ashamed of themselves if they have not yet complied to this law.

Thats just how I feel.