January 2013 Starting the year the way we ended the year

He and I are here.  It's January 4, 2013.  A disney movie plays on a portable xbox station.  Balloons are all starting to deflate.  The sounds of beeps and buzzers are now background noise, and when the doctors and nurses come in, its like seeing old friends.

He is in his bed, and his tummy is hurting but his smile lights up the room.  It was not too long ago from this moment that I really missed Daniel's smile.  A pink pitcher with ice water, the daily platter of fruit, donuts, and muffins.  Fairly bad coffee that has become quite good.  Two small suitcases that rotate clothes back and forth to home.  A bathroom that looks fully equipped with our stuff.  Piles of bills to pay, cards to write, books to read, and magazines.  The same ugly view out the window.  The same scratchy white towels.  Friendly faces, and helpers when needed.  Every single person says "can I get you anything Mom?"  Because in the Children's hospital they don't bother to learn your name, you are either Mom or  Dad or sister or brother.  Phones ring in nurses pockets and they answer "7-2" then rush away to where ever they are needed.  6:00am the orthopedic docs come in, and turn on the brightest of lights, smelling of strong cologne which contradicts their maroon scrubs, they check Daniel's incision and leave, usually forgetting to turn off the lights.  And the yellow protective gowns and gloves.  Being a "contact precaution" room is hard because everyone who comes in here has to cover up.   Daniel tests positive for MRSA....and therefore he can not leave his room at all.   Respiratory comes in to do breathing treatments twice a day.  Always a different person. 

One day a nice friend had a bag full of goodies delivered to me from the gift shop downstairs.  Magazines, cookies, slippers, a teddy bear...etc.  And then I pull out the People Magazine.  And I am home again.  Home to the sadness because on the cover of People are the faces of those angels we lost on December 14.

I'm dreaming of a white Christmas...and Spinal Fusion

November 27, 2012

There are snowflakes falling at 7:55am.  I must say its quite peaceful here.  Everyone is at school and work...and I'm home alone resting.  Because, I have a kidney infection that is excruciating. The pain started yesterday and I went right to the doctor due to the fact that my health is of great value around here and there is no time for sickness.  A typical UTI turned bad due to a badly diagnosed antibiotic.  Hopefully this heals up now...but I'm miserable.  Have so much to do...  but perhaps its a way for God to tell me...slow down Julie. Slow down and be calm. Look at the snow. Pray.  Focus. Blog. 

Thanksgiving/Daniel's birthday was November 22, and it was a very nice day. We had a quiet holiday, and I bought Daniel 15 Balloons to celebrate.  It was very colorful for him.  Then on the 24th 30 ish teenagers came over to celebrate Sarah's 17th birthday.  We turned the basement into a winter wonderland...it looked pretty and she had a great time.  I've always wished that I could rent out a hall for her to have a real party with a DJ and all of the special things that so many other kids have around here.  But I hope she knows that we do the very best that we can.

Last week...  Oh man.  The nurses and I spent two full days taking Daniel to pre-op appointments. Pulmonary, bo-tox for saliva, x rays, blood work, Surgeon consultation, anesthesia, physical therapy, etc etc.

Everything is looking pretty optimistic, but we have one more test tomorrow on his heart.  The curve of his spine has progressively worsened.  This totally needs to be done.

This is Daniel's Spinal x ray. The curve of the spine is over 90 degrees

There is a long list of things to be done before this surgery....  and I'm working on it. John is planning the care of the kids schedule at home.  I am working with the doctors on the post op recovery planning.  Where in the heck am I going to put a hospital bed? Looks like it will be next to my Christmas tree this year....   Special wheelchairs, nursing visits, nursing care, medicine, pain relief, physical therapy, a new wheelchair...  etc. etc. etc. etc.

Due to the crazy kidney infection I am losing this entire week of work.  And I wonder just how I can possibly pull off Christmas.  It will be small.  Small and quiet I am sure.

So today is Tuesday, and there are 6 days until surgery.  Tuesday... and I need to rest and recover.  And focus on those words that fly at me repeatedly, "Julie you have to take better care of yourself"

Duh.  You all don't think I know that?  Perhaps if other things around here shifted onto the shoulders of the people who are free to come and go when they please, then I could focus on my health.  Right now, I am 100% Daniel, Sarah, Thomas, house, cars, finances, and bills....  Phone calls to make, appointments to schedule, folllow ups, equipment, medicine, laundry, the animals, ....  and when someone's brain is so over taxed its a challenge to go to the gym.  I could just let things go, but then while I'm "taking care of myself" I will just obsess about the things that are not being done.

So for now...  as it snows and looks Christmasy and peaceful. I will pray for God's help.  For faith and complete restoration of mind and of body here.  Pray that somehow financial needs will be met over this month of December and that all will fall in line.  Pray that Daniel will remain healthy. Pray for people who are angry to find peace and forgiveness.  Pray for kindness and charity and love to spread like an epidemic everywhere.    There. I feel better.

Wondering, will there possibly be an early dismissal from school today....hmmmm  and I need to  call and schedule Sarah's audition for MaryMount Manhattan college..... and.... and.... and.....