Anger

April 18, 2013

"Never forget what a man says to you when he is angry" - Henry Ward Beecher

"Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are" Cherie Carter Scott

"Men in rage strike those that wish them best" William Shakespeare. Othello, Act 2, Scene 3

"The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath" Gautama Buddha

"Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind."

"An Angry man is always a stupid man" Henry Ward Beecher

"Anger is a killing thing; it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before - it takes something from him." Louis L'Amour

"Depression is rage spread thin." George Santayana

"At best the family teaches the finest things human Beings can learn from one another, generosity and love.  But it is also, all too often, where we learn nasty things like hate, rage, and shame."    Barbara Ehrenreich

"If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?" - Sydney J. Harris

"For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness."

"Where there is anger there is always pain underneath"  Eckhart Tolle

"Know this, my beloved brothers, let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God" James 1:19-20

"Nothing can be more unjust ,or ridiculous, than to be angry"

"An angry parent = confused kid"

Your anger affects the way you parent.  It affects the way talk to and discipline your kids.  If you're not seeing eye-to-eye over family issues then you're not presenting a united front when it comes to discipline.

kids see your anger and they think it is normal to react in that way when life does them down.  They see you explode at the slightest thing and think it's acceptable to do that themselves.  And Hey Presto, you have a problem child on your hands.

"Remember  kids learn by imitation and will COPY YOU when expressing their own anger"

Angery discipline is wrong discipline.  Discipline is about guiding your child towards the right behaviour and choices.  Anger is about punishment - and that is not positive discipline.

Kids don't see shades of grey.  His self-esteem will suffer and he will think that you don't love him.    And because he feels that he can never be what you want and expect him to be, he will act in aggressive and destructive ways.   Because you shout all the time, he will.  Because you overreact, he will.    It's a vicious cycle.

It's natural to get angry.  But the key is not to let it prevent you from responding to your child in a positive and constructive way when he misbehaves.